From A Father's Perspective

There’s a moment in every man’s life when he looks in the mirror and wrestles with the weight of his past. The missed opportunities. The words spoken in anger. The children he wasn’t there for. The promises broken,not always to others, but often to himself. As men, especially Black men in communities like Memphis, we are taught to be tough, silent, and unbreakable. We bury our guilt and carry it like bricks in a backpack, hoping nobody notices the weight. But here’s the truth: you cannot lead, love, or rise while dragging the shame of your past. Brother, it’s time to forgive yourself. Why Self-Forgiveness Matters You’ve made mistakes. So have I. So has every man who ever tried to build something in a broken world. But shame doesn’t grow families, and regret doesn’t raise children. Healing does. Accountability does. And most of all,forgiveness does. Forgiving yourself isn’t about forgetting what you did or excusing it. It’s about owning your story without being owned by it. ...

The Courage to Be a Great Father: Lessons from The Courage to Be Disliked Fatherhood is a profound journey, filled with moments of joy, challenge, and growth. It demands strength, patience, and, above all, courage—courage to lead, to connect, and to be authentically present for your children. Drawing inspiration from The Courage to Be Disliked by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga, this blog explores how the book’s core principles, rooted in Alfred Adler’s psychology, can empower fathers to embrace their role with confidence and purpose. Below, we summarize the key ideas from the book and connect them to practical ways fathers can cultivate a fulfilling and impactful relationship with their children. A Summary of The Courage to Be Disliked The Courage to Be Disliked is a philosophical dialogue between a young man and a wise philosopher, exploring Adlerian psychology’s approach to living a free and meaningful life. The book challenges conventional thinking about happiness, relationships, ...