Black Fathers in Memphis: Prioritizing Health to Support Our Children

Black Fathers in Memphis: Prioritizing Health to Support Our Children


As a Black father in Memphis, I carry a deep responsibility to nurture, guide, and protect my children who are a young king like Noah and brilliant queen like Nia. But to do this effectively, I must prioritize my own health. A healthy father is a strong father. A strong father creates a strong family, and a strong family builds a thriving community.

Like many of us, I grew up seeing men in my family push through life without prioritizing their well-being. But the reality has became very clear to me: high blood pressure, diabetes, heart disease, and stress has taken too many of my friends (fathers) too soon. If we want to be there for our children—not just today but for decades to come—we must commit to healthier lifestyles. Here’s how I am starting this month:

1. Get Active—For Yourself and Your Kids

Exercise isn’t just about looking good; it’s about feeling good and living longer. Whether it’s a morning walk, a bike ride along the Mississippi River, or playing basketball at the community center, moving your body daily is crucial. Better yet, include your kids! Taking Nia to Shelby Farms for a jog or playing soccer with Noah at the park sets a powerful example of an active lifestyle.

2. Eat with Purpose

Soul food is a part of our culture, but we must reimagine it in ways that nourish us. Swap out fried foods for baked or grilled options, add more greens to your plate, and cut back on sugary drinks. Memphis has great options for fresh produce—check out the farmer’s markets or community gardens. Teaching our children healthy eating habits now sets them up for a lifetime of wellness. Additionally, share a healthy meal with your children once a week.  I always eat with Nia and Noah on Wednesdays.  

3. Prioritize Mental Health

Being a Black father comes with unique challenges. The stress of providing, protecting, and breaking generational cycles can take a toll. Many men deal with problems alone and with no support. But we can’t pour from an empty cup. Find a support system—whether it’s FathersFirst Memphis, church group, therapy, or just talking to other fathers in the community, like our "Dinner with Dads" program. Let’s normalize taking care of our mental health just as much as we do our physical health.

4. Regular Check-Ups Are a Must

Too many of our brothers wait until something is wrong to see a doctor. Preventative care can save lives. Schedule annual check-ups, monitor your blood pressure, and stay on top of your health screenings. If you don’t have a doctor, organizations in Memphis offer free or low-cost health services.

5. Rest and Recharge

We hustle hard for our families, but rest is just as important as work. Getting at least 6-8 hours of sleep, taking breaks when needed, and spending quality time with loved ones without distractions will keep you in the best shape—physically and emotionally.

A Call to Action: Lead by Example

Our children watch everything we do. If they see us taking care of our bodies, prioritizing mental health, and making wise decisions, they will grow up doing the same. Fatherhood isn’t just about providing financially—it’s about being present, healthy, and engaged.

Memphis and surrounding areas, let’s rise up. Let’s make the commitment to be healthier fathers for our children and our community. Because when we thrive, so do our families.

What steps are you taking to improve your health for your kids? Share in the comments—we’re in this together!


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